This week in class we have begun to talk about weddings. People spend thousands and thousands of dollars on weddings but there are a few things people really know about the truths of marriage. In the tv show Adam Ruins Everything, one of the episodes he talks about is weddings. Adam the main character in the shower discusses the myths that people commonly assume that are true about weddings and marriage.
One common myth that Adam addresses in the show is the myth of soul mates. In fact if you believe that someone is your soul mate you actually are more likely to break up sooner than those who believe people can grow. If individuals knew this before getting married it could defiantly be a positive factor. Believing that people can grow instead of believing that they are your soul mate will help you understand that people can change over time and sometimes its for the better. It will allow individuals to be more flexible and understanding that people don't stay the same.
Another myth that Adam discussing in the wedding episode is the myth about divorce rates. People often think that over half of all marriages end in divorce but this is in fact a myth. Adam states that the divorce rate has never succeeded over 41%. Even I thought this myth was true! But there is something that people who are getting married can learn from this, its that divorce doesn't happen as often as we think. This fact that divorce happens may scare may people into thinking that marriage is a horrible idea but thats not the case. Knowing the fact that marriages don't all end in divorce gives those who do believe in it a sense of relief that marriage can in-fact last a long time!
The finally myth that I took away from Adam was the myth that divorce is a bad thing. People always think that because two people get divorced that the worlds ending or that the children are in jeopardy but that is not the case. In fact divorce has done a lot of good to the mental health of women. The suicide rate of women has been reduced by 20% because women do not feel trapped anymore. Although divorce can be hard for many couples because lets face it, its not easy there is a bright side to every struggle. Couples who are looking to get married can rest easy knowing that if things do go south in a marriage that divorce isn't always a bad idea.
McKenzie, I agree with all the points you have been in regards to marriage and the myths from the video. In particular, divorce is often seen as something horrible but it has a lot of rewards for example suicide rate of women has been reduced by 20%. Also, it means a bad marriage is over and those individuals can move on to something greater in life.
ReplyDeleteI liked how you brought up how people are more likely to break up if they believe they are soulmates. I agree with you when you said that it is more important to understand that relationships can also fail and sometimes it’s for the better. This is also important because when relationships fail they also can tend to be because the relationship was unhealthy. Like you said, the myth that divorce is bad is not always true and can actually be beneficial.
ReplyDeleteIt blows my mind that people really think that divorce is a bad thing because like you said sometimes relationships grow into unhealthy ones. People don't intentionally want their marriage to grow in an negative way but sometimes its inevitable because people sometimes do grow apart. Its truly amazing when people are married for 50+ years.
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